MIND : ITS MYSTERIES AND CONTROL : 22.3.1
Chapter-22. Raga-Dvesha : 3.1
3. Raga As Painful As Dvesha-1
Raga (attraction) in the mind is as much dangerous as Dvesha (hatred or repulsion).
Whenever there is Raga, there is Dvesha also.
Not only the Dvesha-Vritti (the modification of dislike), but also the Vritti of Raga gives pain to man.
If an object gives pleasure, you get Raga for the object.
But when there is Viyoga (separation) from the object, as in the case of death of your dear wife or son, you get immense pain which is indescribable.
Suppose you are in the habit of taking fruits after food.
Fruits give you pleasure.
You get Raga (liking) for fruits.
But if you cannot get fruits in a place, you get pain.
To be continued ....